Karma – real or fake?
I’ve been thinking a lot about karma lately and the only conclusion I can come to is that I have no idea if karma really exists. Over the course of my life my belief in karma has come and gone. I’ve seen too many things over the years that frankly makes it hard to believe. Below are some of my experiences that have caused my skepticism:
- I’ve seen people both good and bad (lets call them that to make it easy) basically have one good thing after another handed to them on a regular basis. It’s easy to support the existence of karma when you see people who are kind and generous have good things happen to them. However, when you look at people who do nothing but connive and back-stab, amongst other things and yet they still seem to have all this good luck…where is karma in that situation?
- My best friend, that I have known for my entire life, is a perfect example why it’s hard to believe karma. Growing up I remember finding out that her mother was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). I watched as she went from a vibrant woman to having to walk with a walker and then being completely wheelchair bound, where she’s been for the last 20 years or so. Despite having 2 older brothers, a lot of the responsibility feel onto her shoulders. She had to clean the house, help with dinner and keep her mom’s garden up. She also had to help her go to the bathroom, shower, amongst other things. Then I remember the when my friend landed a job as a waitress at the Grosse Pointe Yacht club. Only a few days into the job she was complaining about how badly her hands were hurting from carrying the trays. The pain continued to grow worse so she decided to go see a doctor. Turns out she has Rheumatoid Arthritis which was brought on by Lupus. Talk about a double blow. Thanks to the Lupus and the Arthritis she had, what I would consider 2 tough pregnancies. She was in a lot of pain, had extreme insomnia and Restless Leg Syndrome to boot. However despite all of this bad luck I almost NEVER hear her complain. I still remember last year on the way home from this amazing birthday night that she treated me to (special treatment at the Motor City Casino and a movie), I told her how much I admire her. I have never met anyone stronger than her. It never fails to shock me how happy she always seems and the kind words she always has for me. I couldn’t ask for a better friend. I can’t even believe my luck in having her as a friend. Anyways all of this was a very long winded way for me to ask why does mostly bad things seem to happen to her? She has huge hospital bills due to her illnesses, in the space of 2 months she lost her grandfather, her dog and her aunt and these are just a few. If anyone deserves some good things in her life it’s her.
- Then there was the time that my husband and I knew 3 people in the same hospital at the same time. First my great-aunt had been admitted for lung issues. Second my mother-in-law was going in for a hystorectomy (which was extremely dangerous due to all the complications she had while giving birth to her children). Then to top it all off the night before my mother-in-law goes in for surgery we get a call that my husband’s cousin was in a bar fight and had to go emergency brain surgery due to an injury he sustained during the fight. We weren’t sure he was going to make it or ever be normal again. Talk about extreme stress. Thankfully everything turned out in the end, but is that considered bad karma or good? The level of stress and lack of sleep all of this caused was unreal, but the sheer and utter relief and luck that everyone turned out ok (especially his cousin)…what does that ultimately mean. Is it bad karma that we had to go through this in the first place or good that all turned out well?
Okay I’m not going to bore you with anymore examples, but these are just a few that I have. Do any of these prove or disprove karma, truthfully I have no idea. A close friend of mine had an interesting theory on karma. She believes in reincarnation and past lives (another subject that I am undecided on)…I once told her that I wasn’t sure if I believed in karma. Her thought was that maybe karma is something that we accure over our many lives. Something that we take with us. Maybe we have bad karma in this life because of something we did in a past life or vice versa. Whether you believe in past lives or not, if you can objectively look at this theory, I think most would at least find it interesting. I know I do. To me it’s the only explanation for karma that actually makes sense. The problem is I’m not really sure I believe in past lives. So therein lies my quandry.
Whether I like it or not I don’t think that I’ll ever have concrete proof that karma really exists. It’s one of those things that you either belive in or don’t…kind of like God. You can’t see it, but you either have faith that it exists or you believe that it doesn’t.